Honoring Fathers and Father Figures

Father’s Day can bring up a wide range of reflections—on connection, distance, presence, absence, or the roles fathers have played across our lives. Some may feel gratitude for support and guidance; others may feel the weight of unmet expectations, silence, or loss. All of these responses are valid and worth honoring.

In therapy with youth and caregivers, we often explore how father-child relationships are shaped not only by individual personalities, but by culture, tradition, and generational beliefs. In some families, emotional expression may not be openly encouraged. In others, closeness is deeply nurtured. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps us recognize how early attachment patterns—often influenced by these cultural values—impact our current relationships and sense of security.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers tools to reflect on how we interpret and respond to these experiences. For example, noticing and challenging thoughts like “He was never there for me, so I must not be worth it” can open space for healing. CBT encourages young people to develop healthier thinking patterns and build communication skills that foster clarity and connection.

No matter your experience, this day can be a gentle opportunity to reflect, set boundaries, or reach for connection in a way that feels right for you. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting the past—it means learning to move forward with awareness and intention.